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Year: 2011

Stand up for yourself

The simple act of getting to your feet can be powerful in several situations. When visitors interrupt your work, standing will encourage them to keep it brief. And during negotiations, if one person is standing and the other is sitting, guess who’s in the inferior position.

Some coffee with your stress?

You’re expecting an afternoon meeting to be stressful and charged with emotion. Should you provide coffee for your boss and the other meeting attendees? Or is all that caffeine likely to do more harm than good?

Why am I getting the silent treatment?

If a colleague gives you the “silent treatment,” remember first and foremost that this type of passive aggressive behavior is her issue, not yours. Still, it can be stressful to deal with it, especially if you work in very close quarters. Try asking her if you’ve done something to offend her since she’s so “quiet.” If she says no, then you can only continue to be pleasant and professional. For all you know, she may have applied for your job or you are being groomed to replace her. Readers recommend that you bring this to the boss’s attention only if it is truly compromising your work and you have documented incidences of her interference. But if you do, come prepared with solutions. For example, if you spot an empty desk elsewhere, you might suggest that it could be a more productive space for you because it is closer to the boss’s office or (said without irony) because it is “quieter” there.

Don’t give in to doubters

Extract yourself from unproductive conversations with naysayers, people who only aim to shoot down your ideas. When they launch into a diatribe about what won’t work, respond by saying, “Until we’ve tried everything, I have faith that a great solution is out there.” Then make a graceful exit from the conversation.